If your spouse competes with the kids for your attention or with you for their attention--unschooling and family relationships in general won't work.

John got nostalgic for when Rowan was three or so, and he actually drew the parallel about how our relationship with our son started with all the power/responsibility on the adult side and all the love, respect, and patience flowing to our son. Now, he is seeing flow both ways, and with our two younger kids at a sleepover, John was able to celebrate the journey. I was too busy hanging out with Rowan in the moment to see any of it on Saturday night:) He reflected on what an amazing kid Rowan is and what an amazing patient open-minded man he is growing up to become. The next morning he was talking to me about how wonderful it was to hear Rowan and I chatting and laughing.

We ended up watching Abbot and Costello shorts on youtube and some cartoons.

I realized how quickly time flies and just how happy I am I didn't listen to naysayers, but instead listened to my son and my instinct. The thing about being an unschooling family is none of it was "strange" to me, and it wasn't until later on that I realized why it might seem so odd to others. It seems so sad that a mom and her teenager eating, laughing and watching a movie should be so unusual.